Best Way to Become Beautiful the Sexual Way

From aphrodisiacs and love potions to a supersperm serum – here’s how to become beautiful the sexual way.

• A sexual glow: Better than the most expensive cosmetic blush, the post-orgasmic flush leaves women looking rosy-cheeked and at their most beautiful. Next time that you make love, look at yourself in the mirror afterwards. Now try to create that look with make-up!

Supersperm serum:

Fresh semen rivals the best ingredients of cosmetic science as one of the most nourishing facial serums around. For a firmer, softer skin, spread it on your face and, just like a face mask, leave it on for ten minutes before washing it off with a foaming cleanser and plenty of warm water.

• A facial workout: If you yearn for chiselled cheekbones but don’t have time for a full facial workout, there’s nothing better than oral sex for toning and shaping your face.
• Silky-soft skin: When you make love, the physical activity stimulates the blood circulation, which brings a higher degree of oxygenation to your cells. Regular sex can therefore give you a softer, smoother and more youthful-looking complexion.
• Go solo: You don’t have to be with a partner to benefit from sex. Admittedly, your physical workout may not be quite as thorough, but you can still reap the beauty rewards from both arousal and climax. Indulge in uninhibited fantasies and, if required, enlist the help of erotica. Judi Keshet-Orr, a psychosexual therapist, suggests treating masturbation as sex for one rather than a rushed stimulation session.
• Orgasmic relaxation: If you find it difficult to relax, let an orgasm do it for you. During arousal, your body produces the natural amphetamine PEA. You tend to breathe more deeply, which also aids relaxation. This is followed by an even deeper state of relaxation and finally a release of mental and physical tension directly after climax, which leaves you with that feeling of post-coital euphoria. So take advantage of this natural relaxant by letting your body become totally limp and enjoying this semi-hypnotic state. (Don’t worry if you do not reach the point of orgasm: both the arousal stage and the ‘plateau’ phase – the feeling of being in limbo – before climax are just as beneficial.)
• Tasty turn-ons: Most of us would be positively turned off by powdered rhinoceros horn, Spanish fly and prairie oysters (bulls testicles), but aside from being from quite revolting and hard to find, Spanish fly, for example, contains dangerous chemicals. But take heart, there are plenty of more common aphrodisiacs to indulge in, such as chocolate, honey, aloe vera, celery, shiitake mushrooms, ginseng, avocado, nuts, dates, figs, papaya, royal jelly, ginger and passionfruit.
• Sexy smiles: Smiling is sexy and, according to dentist to the stars, Dr Marc Lowenberg, a sexy smile is defined by healthy-looking, white teeth, and also, a mouth in which the two front teeth are slightly longer than the adjacent ones. This can be achieved by cosmetic dentistry using veneers and reshaping but, as Dr Lowenberg points out: ‘What looks sexy on one person could resemble rabbit teeth on another.’

• Sensual tresses: Your primary physical sexual attributes are your genitals, but as these cannot be flaunted, use one of your secondary sexual characteristics – your hair – to both attract and pull off a new sexy identity. A sexy mane is defined by silky, healthy-looking hair that swings with movement, so get your tresses in tiptop condition. To morph into a siren, wear your hair in a shoulder-skimming style, with a flirty fringe or, as stylist Colin Gold suggests: ‘Have your hair styled in a slightly unstructured way so that it falls softly onto the face or over the eyes, for naturally sexy hair is “peep through” hair! Finally, color can transform the girl-next-door-type into a sex kitten.
• Seductive eyes: A key instrument in the art of seduction are the eyes. When you are attracted to someone your pupils dilate, making your eyes look larger and more attractive. In order to create seductive eyes artificially, elongate them by drawing a fine line along the upper lashes, taking it from the point above the centre of your pupil to the outer corner of your eyes. To emphasise your eyes further, give yourself luscious lashes by using an eyelash curler before strategically placing one or two individual false eyelashes at the upper outer corner of each eye.
• Sexy clothes: Flaunt your femininity by dressing sexily. High heels, skimpy dresses, push-up bras, mini-skirts, boots and sheer fabrics are the obvious sexy items, but remember that one way of sabotaging a potentially sexy look is to overdo it. So be subtle: a glimpse of cleavage or midriff, or an accidental flash of leg, is all that it takes. Underwear (such as little slips or bras) worn as outerwear can be deeply sexy, as long as it’s not so transparent that it reveals all.
• Body language: A primal way of showing interest in someone is to stand close to them. Your stance is also a giveaway: thrusting your breasts or hips slightly forward spells interest. If you want to master the body language of a temptress, the trick is all in your posture: good carriage imparts confidence, which is in itself decidedly alluring.
• Aphrodisiac aromatherapy: Improve your sexual appetite with the help of the intoxicating vapours of such essential oils as ylang-ylang, rose, geranium, benzoin, clary sage and sandalwood. Place the oils in a burner, add a few drops to an unfragranced body lotion or give your partner an erotic massage with one or two of the essential oils blended with a base oil.

• Seductive scents: Odour is a sexual magnet, so it’s no wonder that many fragrances are linked to the art of allure and seduction. Research shows that pheromones – the natural sexual odours emitted by the body – act as powerful aphrodisiacs. This has lead to some companies mimicking pheromones and bottling them. However, vanilla, sandalwood, ylang-ylang and animal musk (the latter is now synthetically created), have been for centuries – and still are – the key aphrodisiac ingredients of fragrances. Dab one of the following love potions onto such sensual body zones as your decolletage, the tops of your thighs, the nape of your neck and your ankles, and see what happens: Philosophy’s Falling in Love, Vivienne Westwood’s Boudoir, Aveda’s Love, Dior’s Hypnotic Poison, Kiehl’s Wild Musk, Prescriptives’ Flirt and Nari’s Karma Sutra Potion.